What Does “Dating A Niche” Really Mean?
Some common advice given in marketing circles is to “date your niche” – not to marry it.
This advice tells us to try out the niche, to give it a go. It’s not our whole life, we don’t have to do it for forever if it doesn’t work out.
But what does it really mean to date a niche?
Think about dating.
Imagine that Bobby and Sue are on a date – they are out for dinner at a local Italian ristorante on Tuesday night.
They first connected through an online dating site, and they messaged each other for a week. This is the first time they have met in person.
But Bobby has three other dates lined up this week – with Anna, Julie, and Monique.
And so does Sue – with Jim, Fred, and Andy.
Bobby and Sue are doing what we might call exploratory dating. They are casually dipping their toe in the waters, seeing who is out there, and finding out who the other person is. They are testing out if the person is a fit for them or not, if they are worth exploring further. If not … on to the next one!
There is no kind of commitment, and they can and do happily date multiple other people at the same time.
The focus of exploratory dating is finding potential matches, sifting through options, and finding a good fit – people who might be really worth spending time with.
Rani and Pradeep, at the next table, are also on a date. They’ve been going on dates for three months now, they have both qualified each other and like what they see – they think there may be something good here.
Pradeep has stopped dating other girls. He wants to give it a go with Rani and see how it works out. Rani feels the same way, she’s stopped dating other guys. They haven’t talked about commitment yet, and haven’t really talked explicitly about exclusivity. And they’re definitely not getting ready to get engaged. But they are starting to meet each others friends. They are starting to really get to know the other person.
We might call this tentative dating. It’s “giving it a go.” Rani is loving being around Pradeep. But if she found out he was secretly married to someone else and hadn’t told her, that he was abusive and he’s an ex-con, her feelings might change. On the other hand, when she instead finds that Pradeep is a good man, he has great friends, works hard, plays her love songs on his piano, and he writes her beautiful poetry, her feelings deepen. Similarly, Pradeep is trying out being with Rani.
Oh, and they both have checklists for what they need. Not huge lists, but Rani knows that she has two or three must-haves in a relationship for it to work for her. And Pradeep is the same, he’s learned from his last relationships and doesn’t want to repeat any previous poor choices.
On a third table, we see Ivan and Maria. Ivan and Maria have been dating for two years. They’ve really got to know each other well. They like what they see. And they’re in love. They haven’t got around to thinking about getting married yet, but it’s kind of in the thinking for somewhere a little down the road. They want to stay together. And they’ve already faced some challenges, some tough times. They’ve seen different parts of each other, the ugly side. But it doesn’t matter, because they helped each other through it, and the good outweighs the bad. They’re sticking with their choices.
Let’s call this confirmed dating.
So, what about niching?
In terms of marketing, exploratory dating represents things like:
- Evaluating options and opportunities conceptually
- Doing market research
- Interviewing people who run that kind of business now, or work in that field
- Doing some volunteer work in that field
- Doing some small projects, for free or a low fee, to get experience, test it out, and get credibility
- Putting up pilot products and services
Its doing things to check out a market, that are low risk and low investment – like Bobby taking Sue out for drinks or dinner.
And you can run through a checklist, to see if it’s a good fit for you.
For example, does it interest you – can you see yourself as happy if you work in that area for 5 or 10 years? Is there demand for that product or service? Do you have a competitive advantage? Is it a growing market?
Tentative dating is something more like taking a position in a market. It’s deciding to focus on one niche, to see how it works out.
It has to be a reasonable commitment to the niche, because it takes time to go deep enough, tweak the messaging, and get real traction with prospects, and then evaluate your experience.
But it’s not just for a day or two either. It’s not a one-night stand or a holiday romance.
It’s getting serious about serving the niche for 3, 6, or 12 months – long enough to give it a serious go, to see if the niche works for you both creatively and commercially.You are really giving it a go, showing up, committing, during that time.
It’s going out with the niche.
But you don’t want to just jump in casually, and commit to just any niche for three or six or twelve months.
That’s why a bit of exploratory dating, first, helps.
Although tentative dating is a bigger commitment than exploratory dating, it’s much easier to make that choice after you found your favourite in exploratory dating.
Tentative dating is what people really mean when they say “date a niche.” They mean make a commitment to it. For now. For a realistic and meaningful chunk of time … but not (yet) forever.
If all goes well, and after a while you still like the niche and it is going well for you, you can commit to it. You can then really invest in it over time. You develop more experience, more capital, as you go.
What do you think?
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